If you've just broken up, or are about to, or are unsure if
you should or you shouldn't, you've come to the right place.
I can help you. Here are some general guidelines and
pointers on where to find more advice on a specific
- 1. YOU CAN CURE YOUR BROKEN HEART
- No matter who left who, if you loved him or her, you're
hurting. There's no point in denying it and no future in
wallowing in it. Treat the pain. Go immediately to "When He/She Left You -- Coping", and
"Letting Go". These articles will
help you get rid of the heartache and get on with your
- 2. RECOGNIZE THE SIGNS OF "CRAZY LOVE"
- You could be in a Crazy Love relationship without
realizing it. I had a whole string of them before I
found out that love isn't supposed to make you
Feigning suicide or pretending you're pregnant, of
course, top the list of the most obviously crazy acts,
but have you spied on his or her apartment late at
night? Gone through the garbage searching for love
letters from another person? Called to see if someone
else was there and then hung up? Tried to buy his or
her love with expensive gifts? Done something ill-
advised hoping to make him or her jealous? If so, it's
OK; a miraculous return to sanity awaits you as soon as
you end the Crazy Love relationship.
Crazy Love results from one-sided love -- when you're "crazy
in love" and chasing someone who just drops you a crumb now
- 3. BEING ALONE IS BETTER THAN BEING IN A BAD LOVE
- It's amazing what we'll go through to avoid being
alone or to postpone the unpleasantness of a breakup.
When do you "owe it to the relationship to make it
work," and when do you owe it to yourself to find
someone else? Read "When To Get
Out Of A Relationship" for my list of valid reasons
to call it quits, and then read
"Ending It" for pointers on handling the
Or, if you're simply going out with someone you no longer
really care for "until the right person comes along," read
my article on "`Convenient'
Relationships" to learn about the price you may be
- 4. DON'T BE PESSIMISTIC ABOUT FINDING A NEW
- It's not as hard as you're probably thinking. I've
helped thousands find fulfilling love relationships,
and I can help you, too. As soon as you're sure you've
graduated from my "Letting Go"
article, move on to Section Two of my Library, "How to Find the Right
To provide a little "sharing" for those who are hanging on
to hopeless relationships, (or for those who just want to
read some entertaining true-life stories), this section of
my Library starts off with examples of go-nowhere affairs,
crazy love, and one-sided love in a "What I Did For Love"
series of case histories, including one of mine.
Related Keywords: Letting Go, Dependency, Love Addiction
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