Age-old mating, nesting and family-protection instincts just
naturally drive relationships forward. While male and
female instincts differ in some ways, they also have much in
common. A healthy person, man or woman, does not want to
live his or her life alone. It helps a lot, though, if you
understand how all this works.
You can't make an impossible relationship work, but you can
strengthen and accelerate a normal relationship -- or know
when and why it's coming off the track. If you really delve
into this Section, you'll even find out how to create the
"chemistry" of love...
Here are my key Guidelines for a Relationship:
- 1. UTILIZE NEW TECHNIQUES TO ENHANCE TRUST AND
While Love retains its wonderful mystery, we've learned a
few things about it. We know what creates the "In Love"
feeling, and most important, we know that lasting love is
built on closeness, trust, and communication. To learn
about "Inner Languages," "Romantic Triggers," "Anchoring,"
and other touchstones which can bring you closer, browse
through "The Amazing Power of
Mirroring" and the articles which follow in this
- 2. ACCEPT THAT NO ONE'S PERFECT; WE ARE ALL A
In a sound relationship, partners are not only tolerant of
each other's imperfections, they "cover" for each other.
Instead of being annoyed by their personality differences,
they appreciate that their different "takes" on the world
give new insights to each other and gives them strength as a
team. See "Secrets For Understanding
- 3. IF THE RELATIONSHIP DOESN'T PROGRESS, FIX IT
OR LEAVE IT
Relationships develop in stages.
"The Steps to Commitment" gives you an overview of these
stages, and even a rule-of-thumb timetable for a
relationship's progression. This will provide some much-
needed perspective for anyone who feels rushed or stalled in
their relationship. If your relationship has some of the
normal problems, "Avoiding
Fights" and "Spicing Up Your Love
Life" might help.
To help those who aren't sure if their relationship is
fixable or not (or for those who just want to read some
entertaining true-life stories), this section of my Library
starts off with examples of go-nowhere affairs, crazy love,
and a "What I Did For Love" series of one-sided love
stories, including one of mine. Advice on more normal
problems in potentially healthy relationships starts with "Are You Giving Too Much Too Soon?"
and progresses into techniques for solidifying True Love.
Related Keywords: Love Strategies, Making Love Grow, Keeping Love Alive, Commitment, Fighting
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