You might feel like you’re too old to date. Or maybe you just don’t have the confidence to go out there anymore. But being involved in over 60 dates isn’t wrong. In fact, it can be rewarding and you may even find true love.
The truth is, there isn’t much difference in meeting a man over 60 versus anyone else (see also “Can You Get Married After 60?“) — just keep doing what works for you.
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And while a lot of people believe that dating apps are only for younger singles, they actually work just fine for both young and mature adults.
A Positive Move
What happens when you start dating? You start getting happy hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and oxytocin. These hormones make us feel good and give us energy.
These are great reasons to start dating in our twilight years.
Establish What You Want
When we’re young, we think we know exactly what we want out of life. We believe that once we reach a certain age, our needs change, too.
And while some people do indeed slow down and start thinking about settling into a comfortable routine, others continue to look for love well into middle age.
If you’ve been single for a while now, don’t worry—you’re not alone. There are plenty of other older singles out there just like you looking for companionship, romance, sex, friendship, and even family.
So how do you go about finding someone special in your 60s and beyond?
Start by asking yourself what you really want out of a relationship. Are you looking for someone to take walks with, watch movies with, eat dinner with, or maybe even spend the night?
Maybe you’d prefer to meet someone online because you work long hours. Whatever your preference, make sure you communicate clearly about what you’re looking for.
This way, you won’t waste each other’s time.
Once you’ve established what you want, you’ll need to decide whether you want to date casually or set up a serious relationship (see also “Does Dating Move Faster When You’re Older?“).
Casual dating is great for meeting people and getting to know them; however, casual relationships rarely lead to anything deeper.
On the other hand, setting up a serious relationship takes patience and persistence, but it can pay off handsomely.
Online Dating
Online dating is among the top ways of meeting new people in today’s modern world. And there are now countless niche online dating sites catering specifically for people over 50 (see also “10 Tips For Dating In Your 50s You Need Right Now“).
Your online profile is your opportunity to show off what makes you special—and it’s one of the most important parts of online dating.
Whether you’re looking for love or just meeting people in general, creating a great profile is key to finding success.
The best profiles include a few things:
• Details About Yourself
You should include your name, age, location, occupation, relationship status, and hobbies. If you’re single, make sure to mention your favorite activities and places where you like to go.
Include some photos of yourself and tell people why you’re interested in connecting with others.
• Interests & Preferences
This is the place to show off your passions. Tell people about your career, your family, your friends, and anything else that relates to you. Make sure to indicate whether you’d prefer casual dates or long-term relationships.
But what about those who don’t want to join one of the many dedicated sites out there? Or those who simply prefer meeting potential partners face to face? Well, there’s still hope.
The internet is full of sites where people meet up to go clubbing, play tennis or take part in other activities. So why not give it a try? You might even find love.
If any kind of interaction online seems a step too far when looking for love then don’t fear, there are plenty of other ways. Here are some tips to help you find Mr. Right when you turn 60.
Be Active
If you’re looking for a partner, staying active is key.
Whether you’re taking dance classes, joining a gym, volunteering, or simply walking around the neighborhood, getting moving every day helps improve your mood and makes you feel better overall as well as exposing you to lots of different people.
Join Groups
Joining groups where you live and/or volunteer can provide opportunities to make friends. These connections could lead to lasting friendships that benefit your personal and romantic relationships.
It also helps keep you in a routine and give you something to focus on.
Keep An Open Mind
As you get older, you may be more selective with whom you date. However, this doesn’t mean you should limit yourself to only one type of person. If you’ve been single for a long time, try to open up your mind to new possibilities.
Don’t Forget About Yourself
When you reach your 60s, you’ll likely start thinking about retirement and other things that will change once you stop working. If you are single, use the time to focus on making sure you stay healthy so you can enjoy life as you age.
It’s easy to forget about ourselves as we get older. Make sure you don’t neglect yourself by eating right, exercising regularly, and sleeping well.
Doing these things will allow you to look and feel good, which will increase your confidence and attractiveness to others.
Get Social
Social media has made it easier than ever before to connect with others online. So if you haven’t done so yet, take advantage of all the social networking sites available today.
You never know who might be interested in connecting with you (see also “How Do You Know If He’s Interested? [Over 50s Dating]“)!
Have Fun
Remember that fun is important at any age. Even though you may not be able to go out as often as you used to, having fun with friends and family still counts.
Focus On Quality Over Quantity
While it’s tempting to jump into a relationship without knowing anything about the person, quality matters more than quantity. It’s always best to choose someone who treats you well and respects you.
Stay Positive
Being positive will help you attract the kind of men you want. Being negative will cause you to attract the wrong types of guys.
Be Patient
Don’t give up hope of finding someone special. Just because you’re getting older doesn’t mean you have to settle for less.
If you’re looking for Mr. Right, he isn’t going to come find you. Instead, you may need to be proactive.
Find Someone Who Makes You Happy
Don’t just settle for anyone. Look for a man who makes you happy and who you can talk to about anything.
Age Doesn’t Matter
Age really does matter when it comes to dating. But while it’s true that younger people are usually attracted to older ones, there are plenty of older men who are also attracted to women their own age.
Accept Yourself As You Are
As you grow older, you may become self-conscious about certain aspects of your appearance. If this happens, try not to dwell on it. Instead, focus on how you can improve those areas.
Keep Learning
Learning new things helps keep your mind sharp and active. When you sign up for training courses or get involved in a new project you rub shoulders with many different people and you never know who might lead.
Get Out Of Your Comfort Zone
Dating outside of your comfort zone can open up opportunities for meeting new people. Try doing something different once in a while, you never know where it will lead and you will build confidence along the way.
Conclusion
Dating in your 60s isn’t as difficult as you might think (see also “Is 60 Too Old To Find Love?“). It’s all about being open-minded and willing to try new things.
You never know where it will lead, so be prepared to have fun along the way!
Perhaps this is why, when I was thrown into the adult dating pool, I was completely underwhelmed. Everyone was either looking for hookups or professing love only to ghost me a few weeks later.
After a few years on the apps (much too long), I gave up. I deleted the apps and pondered getting a cat.
That’s when I met my now-husband, Tom.
Tom and I have now been together for four years and our combined experience gave me the idea to start this website, looking into all things love-related.
I would have loved a website like this in my 20s, to let me know that I wasn’t alone in the sea of terrible dates. So, I hope that my painful experiences and advice bring you some comfort, and maybe even laughter.
Remember that there is someone out there for you - you just have to struggle through the time-wasters to find them.
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